One perfect way to occur fight is, try to win with the biggest point gap.

The craziest fighting games happens in bangneki. I don't know english for this but it is a betting go, the winner earns certain amount of money multiplied by each 10 points win, bigger win bigger earn.

If you want to be better at fighting, solve many many many many many many many ... life and death problems as much as you can, *(edit) but never give up solving, nothing gets better when you keep giving up.

Right I know that doing L&D helps the playstyle, but what kind of opening should I use to GET there? Fighting doesn't happen in every game or out of nowhere, so I wonder if a cosmic, moyo, or just approaching style is better? One thing I know is reading alot, taking my time, and playing solid will be keys to winning these games.

Before I have said I am weak in the opening and better at fighting... but really its more like im better at seeing tesuji in mid-game fighting for snapbacks, kos, or making life etc. So its more like L&D situations or such.

What im not good at is a moyo vs moyo game where it is very calm, or something like that. Im okay at attacking weak groups to make a profit, but the easiest thing for me to do is make a big whole board fight IE with tengen I feel comfortable.

My only other thing I feel like im better at than some people my rank is endgame, where usually if it makes it past the fight the game is even or im a bit behind, and i win by 5 pts or something by the end.

As I wrote before, just "try to win with the biggest point gap", this way, you won't let the game be a moyo vs moyo style cuz it is hard to win with a big point gap in those type of games. If your opponent try's to make a moyo, invade, and do anything you can do to destroy your opponent's structure and win.

so there are joseki that leave both players with unsettled groups to worry about, and this favor the player with better fighting skills (or so I think).

Two josekis that are famous for this is the avalanche joseki and taisha. Especiaily taisha leaves both players with weak groups and fight for the center The only problem is that most people will play the easy variations where you don't have to fight.