White 6 was quite a surprise. Which side to answer on is not clear. Either one should give Black a good result. Strangely enough the corner position has occurred a few times in pro games (usually in the midst of ko fights). There are examples of Black playing both on the outside and the inside. Personally I like your choice to play solidly on the outside. Even at this early stage it seems pretty obvious that White is the type of player who likes a fight - to the point of starting fights on unfavorable ground. Confining White in the corner and looking to the outside for compensation looked good here.
With White 14 though, the answer at 15 seems clearly too soft. White 16 is quite painful as it hurts your earlier play at 13. Should 15 be the hane at the 3-3 point instead? In any case White gets a bigger corner than usual and Black ends up connecting at 27 in gote. Nevertheless, Black has played consistently for the outside.
White pushes at 28 and Black answers at 29. Despite other comments, this was a good play. It never hurts too much to be pushed from behind and it would be very painful indeed to play elsewhere and have White come back later and hane at 29 instead.
White plays too close to Black's thickness with 30 and Black invades behind this stone with 31. Excellent! Use your thickness to attack. White compounds the error by jumping in the direction of Black's wall with 32. Does White imagine there is some threat here? Black calmly jumps to 33, another good idea. White 'forces' Black to create an eyeless White group with 34-38 and so we come to 39.
I would connect at J6 without thinking. White is in terrible shape here (excuse the pun).

would sandwich the White stones between two thick Black positions. More than that, consider what direction you would like to play from if White runs with

below. I would want to play something like

. The reason is that you actually never want to make territory in front of all your thickness on the right. You want to make it in the center left. In the game you played at 'a'. That was a mistake in direction. You want to approach the lower left from the direction of 'b' rather than 'a'. The left side is much wider than the bottom. After something like

and

below, the left starts to look huge if Black comes back to 'b'. But meanwhile there would still be the center White stones to torment!
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Ignoring the above, consider your 39 in the game. It as a high, 3-space extension from an existing Black group. Imagine the issue of the lower-side group were already resolved. How would the position be if White simply answered 39 at D5? Wouldn't White have gotten the better of things?
Anyway, so White cuts at 42 and Black fixes up White's lower-side stones for free. Consider if Black had simply stood at K7 with 43. This threatens to capture the cutting stone in a ladder. It also threatens to cap the lower side stones at M7. White's problems have multiplied. Probably White will put the cutting stone in motion. But Black outnumbers White in the center. Black should be the aggressor here.
At 59 did you consider playing the hane at J9? It threatens L8 next and wrapping around White's position. When White played H9 at 60, I think your side became over-concentrated.
Whatever your reasoning was for 81, it can not have been correct. Just H16, continuing to let yourself be pushed down, would have been much better. 81 was essentially a pass.
99 was an excellent move, reviewing the board as a whole and seizing the main chance. Whether to live in the corner or connect is not the point. In different situations you will find that either may be the better way. Of course you should have captured White's stones at 115
It's a relatively minor point but note that D19 was a bad move. There is aji for Black to extend at B17. This is affected by what happens on the left side. Instead of just turning at C12, Black could consider jumping in at B14 if the C17 stones are still there.
Note that 164 at J15 paralyzes Black due to shortage of liberties. White will capture either three or seven of your stones. The whole idea starting with 152 does not work.
Despite what happens with 181, Black has a sure win if he plays B14 before White gets to it. Black 233 seems to be the losing move (but I am guessing not the one you called the "obvious" losing move, right?

) If Black had captured at 1 below and both sides had connected, SE and I think Black would have won by half a point.
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