A few comments:
(;CA[UTF-8]SZ[19]GM[1]AP[GOWrite:2.2.21]ST[2]FF[4]RE[W+Resign]OT[4x40 byo-yomi]PB[Toge]KM[7.0]PC[The KGS Go Server at <!-- m --><a class="postlink" href="http://www.gokgs.com/">http://www.gokgs.com/</a><!-- m -->]FG[259:]PW[BillyGoat]BR[1k]WR[1k]RU[NZ]PM[0]TM[1200.0]GN[ ]DT[2010-11-16]
;BL[1193.274]B[qd]
;W[dp]WL[1197.162]
;BL[1188.299]B[pq]
;W[dc]WL[1194.401]
;BL[1182.496]B[oc]
;W[po]WL[1191.346]
;BL[1176.986]B[pl]
;W[mp]WL[1140.966]
;BL[1168.111]B[oo]
;W[on]WL[1130.272]
;BL[1163.558]B[no]
;W[pp]WL[1129.319]
;BL[1154.749]B[nq]
;W[qq]WL[1121.846]
;BL[1144.357]B[oq]
;W[nn]WL[1119.86]
;BL[1097.708]B[mo]
;W[rp]C[Toge: In retrospect should black capture this stone?
*** No.]WL[1111.156]TR[mp]
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;BL[1071.156]B[mn]C[*** A good play. ]
;W[pm]LB[ol:A]C[Toge: Joseki would be P8. I figured that nobi would be sufficient. It doesn't seal white in very good though.]WL[1038.827]
;BL[1055.965]B[ol]C[*** Since White has responeded passively, you could tenuki here. OTOH, this looks playable. See variation for next for a Black follow-up.]
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;W[kp]C[Toge: With this one move my group is turned heavy. What should I do?
*** If you think that your group is heavy, do not play this joseki. There was a time when it was considered good for White. That was before Black started playing the turn at N-06. Black's groups are not heavy.]WL[1029.281]
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;BL[1008.844]B[ip]C[Toge: Perhaps this is the start of my problems. Three weak groups. Black is the one getting attacked.
*** The start of your problem is your assessment of these groups. First, your seven stone group is fine. It clearly has an eye, at least, and not only has access to the center, it has the strong turn at N-06. The two stone group not only has tactical safety with 5 dame, it is close to Black's strength and has a good follow-up with the descent to R-08. If White plays at R-08 to prevent that, Black can make a hanging connection, which is very strong. As for the single stone, it is only one stone, and besides, it is a pincer. White's last move was a mistake, IMO.]SQ[mn][ip][ol]
;W[jn]WL[837.198]
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;BL[960.293]B[in]C[*** Why strengthen White? See variations.]
;W[im]WL[726.361]
;BL[955.907]B[hn]
;W[km]WL[723.539]
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;BL[934.508]B[lp]C[*** Here is where your fear got the better of you. Even if you are worried about your stones, see variation.]
;W[lq]WL[660.88]
;BL[927.181]B[lo]C[*** Now Black has bad shape.]
;W[jp]WL[655.357]
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;BL[912.52]B[mq]C[*** Again, the counsel of fear. See variation.]
;W[iq]C[Toge: What to do with these stones? Should I just sacrifice them?
*** Technically, maybe not. Practically and psychologically, probably so. How can you continue the attack? Or at least make some profit from these stones. If you cannot see how to do that, better to let them go.
BTW, what a difference a move makes! W34 was big, wasn't it?]WL[573.953]SQ[hn][in][ip]
;BL[848.28]B[fp]
;W[hp]WL[455.918]
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;BL[826.992]B[io]C[*** What did you have in mind? Why did you make bad shape? Do you think you still have an attack on those stones? See variation.]
;W[gq]WL[448.628]
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;BL[799.2]B[go]C[*** Why? Do you want a heavy group? Do not be afraind to throw stones away. See variation.]
;W[dn]WL[419.507]
;BL[792.96]B[fq]
;W[dr]WL[371.866]
;BL[760.995]B[gl]
;W[hm]C[*** Not good.]WL[312.878]
;BL[758.474]B[gm]
;W[fn]WL[311.365]
;BL[754.954]B[gn]C[*** Now it looks like White peeped at a bamboo joint and Black replied. White's last stone looks silly, too.]
;W[el]C[Toge: I feel the game is already over at this point.
*** The rule of thumb is one eye plus access to the center. Where is Black's eye? Much better to have sacrificed a stone or two, right? ]WL[310.171]
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;BL[750.702]B[gj]C[*** See variation. End of comments.]
;W[jc]WL[272.844]
;BL[741.292]B[jl]
;W[jm]WL[264.909]
;BL[739.417]B[gr]
;W[hr]WL[260.415]
;BL[737.899]B[gp]
;W[hq]WL[257.708]
;BL[732.503]B[fs]
;W[er]WL[221.702]
;BL[717.777]B[ml]
;W[hk]WL[183.899]
;BL[711.054]B[gk]
;W[ij]WL[182.149]
;BL[705.512]B[dj]
;W[ek]WL[100.514]
;BL[701.683]B[ej]
;W[fi]WL[99.502]
;BL[697.574]B[fj]
;W[ck]WL[97.769]
;BL[688.262]B[eo]
;W[en]WL[81.407]
;BL[686.326]B[do]
;W[co]WL[77.462]
;BL[653.359]B[hi]
;W[ce]WL[46.233]
;BL[649.108]B[dg]
;W[qe]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[633.597]B[re]
;W[rf]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[630.498]B[rd]
;W[qf]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[616.122]B[qi]
;W[oe]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[609.267]B[lc]
;W[nd]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[606.47]B[nc]
;W[ld]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[594.218]B[kd]
;W[mc]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[592.246]B[mb]
;W[md]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[590.775]B[kc]
;W[nb]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[565.698]B[ob]
;W[lb]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[564.892]B[na]
;W[kb]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[563.603]B[ke]
;W[lf]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[557.174]B[ie]
;W[hc]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[545.526]B[kf]
;W[lg]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[490.039]B[ib]
;W[ic]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[488.242]B[jb]
;W[hb]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[486.627]B[la]
;W[ia]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[485.584]B[ka]
;W[ql]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[476.055]B[qk]
;W[qm]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[473.235]B[rk]
;W[bg]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[449.81]B[de]
;W[dd]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[447.274]B[ee]
;W[cj]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[441.89]B[ci]
;W[bi]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[439.09]B[ch]
;W[fr]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[422.563]B[og]
;W[pd]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[417.951]B[pc]
;W[li]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[413.535]B[mh]
;W[lh]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[404.489]B[le]
;W[nf]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[344.507]B[me]
;W[ng]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[339.052]B[ne]
;W[of]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[329.012]B[od]
;W[ii]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[320.042]B[ih]
;W[jh]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[306.882]B[kj]
;W[lk]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[300.556]B[lj]
;W[mj]OW[4]WL[40.0]
;BL[292.883]B[mk]
;W[ll]OW[4]WL[40.0]
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;B[jl]C[*** If White does not answer, you do not need the jump. Later on, White might not answer. Besides, this stone may help make an eye later. ]
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;B[en]C[*** If you do not want to play a double approach, at least play here.]
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;B[dn]C[*** Surely the double approach is worth a single stone.]
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;B[iq]C[*** If White wants to strengthen your group, fine.]
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;B[mm]C[*** Isn't this better?]
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;B[fp]C[*** A triple purpose play. It gives the Black pincer stone a base, approaches the corner, and attacks White's floating stones.]
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;B[jo]C[*** I do not recommend this play, at least for now. But it just shows how it is White who is in trouble.]
;W[ko]
;B[kn]
;W[ln]
;B[km]
;W[lo]
;B[lm]
;W[iq]
;B[hq]
;W[jq]
;B[hp]
;W[mm]
;B[ml]
;W[nm]
;B[lq]
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;B[lp]
;W[lq]
;B[lo]
;W[mq]
;B[kq]
;W[jq]
;B[kr]
;W[jr]
;B[ko]
;W[jp]C[Toge: This would be no brainer for white.]
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;W[tt]
;B[ql]C[*** This looks OK for Black.]
;W[tt]C[*** If White does not reply, . . .]
;B[qn]
;W[pn]
;B[ro]C[*** Black has a nice threat against the corner.]
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;B[lp]C[Toge: Really?]
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;B[fq]C[Toge: What sort of joseki does this bring?]
;W[hq]
;B[fo]
;W[dn]
;B[ip]
;W[iq]
;B[jp]
;W[jq]
;B[kp]
;W[lq]
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Focus: Do not be afraid to sacrifice stones. In fact, it would not hurt to practice it. Look for opportunities to throw stones away.
