You actually played White in the first game pretty well. By move 50 or so you had good chances of winning. You started off playing slow, and you might not have done so well against a different style, but there is little to complain about in terms of giving handicaps. Your worst play in that regard was

, allowing Black to connect his weak group with

.
Divide and conquer is a good go motto.
One go proverb to keep in mind is,
The opponent's play is my play. You missed chances to take away a good move for the opponent by playing there yourself.
You also failed to make a diagonal play to the second line where the opponent also has such a play. That play is often called a double sente. It is much bigger than it looks.
A number of times you made the mistake of pushing from behind. That is usually the wrong thing to do. Get ahead if you can.
Several comments:
(;CA[UTF-8]SZ[19]FF[4]AP[GOWrite:2.2.21]GM[1]ST[2]OT[5x20 byo-yomi]KM[0.5]FG[259:]RU[Japanese]C[AnnaLena [16k]: hi
chincharra [12k?]: hi
]PM[0]AB[dd][dp][pp][pd]PB[AnnaLena]BR[16k]TM[300.0]HA[4]GN[ ]PC[The KGS Go Server at http://www.gokgs.com/]PW[chincharra]RE[B+14.50]WR[12k]DT[2013-07-24]
;WL[285.804]W[fc]
;B[cg]BL[295.509]
(
;C[*** Slow. See variation.]WL[283.127]W[ic]
;B[qj]BL[291.593]
;WL[274.725]W[fq]
;B[dq]BL[287.289]
(
;C[*** Slow. And see variation.]WL[272.538]W[iq]
;B[cj]BL[284.467]
(
;C[*** Good idea. See variation.]WL[270.048]W[cm]
;B[cn]BL[282.424]
(
;C[*** Heavy. It is hard to throw these stones away, but they have no eyes. See variation.]WL[268.94]W[dm]
;B[dn]BL[280.614]
;WL[267.78]W[em]
;B[ek]BL[276.303]
;WL[261.394]W[pm]
;B[qn]BL[269.015]
;WL[260.025]W[qm]
;B[pn]BL[266.812]
;WL[255.45]W[om]
;B[on]BL[264.749]
;WL[254.379]W[nm]
;B[nn]BL[263.034]
;WL[253.306]W[qg]
;B[rh]BL[258.727]
;WL[250.305]W[rg]
;B[rl]BL[254.525]
;WL[248.579]W[rm]
;B[ql]BL[252.465]
(
;C[*** Bad shape. Accomplishes little. See variations.]WL[247.333]W[pl]
;B[rn]BL[250.687]
;WL[242.628]W[sl]
;B[rj]BL[246.821]
(
;C[*** See variation.]WL[235.742]W[qc]
;B[sn]BL[242.767]
(
;C[*** Allowing Black to connect is bad. See variation.]WL[219.576]W[qd]
;B[sm]BL[240.987]
;WL[212.415]W[lq]
;B[nq]BL[238.441]
;WL[207.134]W[ff]
;B[cc]BL[235.331]
;WL[204.442]W[lc]
;C[*** Now the six White stones need shoring up.]B[mn]BL[232.595]
(
;C[*** But pushing from behind is not generally a good idea. See variation.]WL[202.85]W[mm]
;B[ln]BL[230.904]
;C[*** Still pushing the cart from behind.]WL[201.141]W[lm]
;B[oj]BL[227.19]
;WL[196.078]W[oh]
;B[nk]BL[224.851]
;WL[191.986]W[lk]
;B[mj]BL[221.177]
;WL[190.787]W[lj]
;C[*** Actually, for a four stone game White has done pretty well. ]B[mi]BL[219.077]
(
;C[*** Pushing from behind again. See variation.]WL[186.556]W[li]
;B[mh]BL[217.154]
;WL[183.671]W[ne]
;B[lh]BL[214.992]
;WL[182.088]W[kh]
;B[lf]BL[212.975]
;WL[178.107]W[ig]
;B[eg]BL[209.826]
;C[*** Good block.]WL[176.132]W[fg]
;B[ef]BL[206.18]
(
;C[*** Allows Black to push White around a bit. See variations.]WL[174.075]W[ed]
;B[ee]BL[204.146]
;WL[172.225]W[fe]
;B[ec]BL[202.045]
(
;C[*** See variation.]WL[171.164]W[fd]
;B[eb]BL[200.117]
;WL[169.86]W[fb]
;B[fa]BL[198.028]
;WL[168.725]W[ga]
;B[ea]BL[196.517]
;WL[168.053]W[gb]
;C[*** White has lost a little ground, but still has chances.]B[eh]BL[194.516]
(
;C[*** Pushing from behind again. See variations.]WL[166.78]W[fh]
;B[fi]BL[193.007]
(
;C[*** Not a bad play, but inconsistent. See variation.]WL[163.143]W[fo]
;B[gi]BL[190.202]
(
;C[*** Not as good as it looks. See variations.]WL[155.077]W[jn]
;B[ko]BL[187.244]
;C[*** Unnecessary.]WL[154.016]W[kn]
;B[jp]BL[182.855]
;WL[152.732]W[ip]
;B[jq]BL[180.828]
;WL[151.35]W[jr]
(
;C[*** Did Black miss a trick here? See variation.]B[lp]BL[178.108]
(
;C[*** See variation.]WL[149.71]W[kq]
;B[kp]BL[175.354]
;WL[145.232]W[jo]
;B[mq]BL[172.963]
;WL[143.173]W[lr]
;B[mr]BL[171.011]
(
;C[*** Unnecessary. See variation.]WL[142.212]W[ks]
;C[*** White has few chances now. End of comments.]B[er]BL[167.552]
;WL[140.568]W[fr]
;B[fs]BL[165.322]
;WL[138.853]W[gs]
;B[es]BL[162.084]
;WL[138.273]W[gr]
;B[eq]BL[160.491]
;WL[133.661]W[en]
;B[bn]BL[158.218]
;WL[131.984]W[bm]
;B[an]BL[156.143]
;WL[130.521]W[am]
;B[bk]BL[154.278]
;WL[125.457]W[pi]
;B[pj]BL[151.349]
;WL[123.374]W[nh]
;B[mf]BL[148.493]
;WL[122.25]W[nf]
;B[kd]BL[145.926]
;WL[119.871]W[kc]
;B[jd]BL[144.491]
;WL[115.968]W[ie]
;B[id]BL[140.952]
;WL[114.218]W[hd]
;B[je]BL[137.871]
;WL[111.715]W[jc]
;B[ld]BL[135.737]
;WL[109.496]W[md]
;B[kf]BL[132.429]
;WL[100.643]W[ni]
;B[nj]BL[128.949]
;WL[87.432]W[jf]
;B[jg]BL[125.116]
;WL[84.209]W[jh]
;B[if]BL[123.204]
;WL[83.079]W[he]
;B[kg]BL[120.231]
;WL[81.788]W[ih]
;B[mg]BL[117.359]
;WL[71.506]W[ng]
;B[me]BL[115.122]
;WL[67.599]W[nd]
;B[qh]BL[112.812]
;WL[66.046]W[ph]
;B[qi]BL[110.269]
;WL[63.674]W[mk]
;B[pk]BL[106.512]
;WL[58.812]W[mp]
;B[lo]BL[103.805]
;WL[57.42]W[np]
;B[op]BL[101.596]
;WL[52.791]W[oq]
;B[no]BL[99.309]
;WL[47.021]W[nr]
;B[mo]BL[96.559]
;WL[43.522]W[ms]
;B[or]BL[94.524]
;WL[37.402]W[ns]
;B[os]BL[90.208]
;WL[36.557]W[ls]
;B[pq]BL[88.376]
;WL[33.477]W[ep]
;B[do]BL[85.736]
;WL[32.25]W[eo]
;B[fk]BL[83.19]
;WL[30.149]W[ik]
;B[gl]BL[81.005]
;WL[29.47]W[gm]
;B[hl]BL[77.839]
;WL[28.762]W[hm]
;B[il]BL[75.875]
;WL[26.989]W[jk]
;B[jl]BL[74.392]
;WL[26.232]W[km]
;B[kl]BL[72.416]
;WL[24.911]W[ll]
;B[fm]BL[69.253]
;WL[21.454]W[im]
;B[el]BL[65.418]
;WL[13.138]W[gh]
;B[ei]BL[62.004]
;WL[11.621]W[hi]
;B[gk]BL[59.099]
;WL[7.095]W[nl]
;B[hj]BL[56.319]
;WL[5.929]W[ij]
;B[hk]BL[54.37]
;WL[4.973]W[kk]
;B[hf]BL[51.662]
;WL[2.761]W[gf]
;B[hg]BL[49.771]
;WL[1.634]W[hh]
;B[jf]BL[47.948]
;WL[20.0]W[sh]OW[5]
;B[si]BL[45.704]
;WL[20.0]W[sg]OW[5]
;B[al]BL[41.651]
;WL[20.0]W[ck]OW[5]
;B[bj]BL[36.211]
;WL[20.0]W[bl]OW[5]
;B[ak]BL[32.189]
;WL[20.0]W[dk]OW[5]
;B[dj]BL[30.427]
;WL[20.0]W[dl]OW[5]
;B[ol]BL[23.651]
;WL[20.0]W[fn]OW[5]
;B[ok]BL[21.224]
;WL[20.0]W[jm]OW[5]
;B[fl]BL[18.684]
;WL[20.0]W[tt]OW[5]
;TB[aa:db][ac:bc][ad:cd][ae:df][ag:bg][ah:di][aj][ao:cq][ar:ds][dc][dg][ej:gj][ke:le][lg][mp:np][oo:so][oq][pr:ss][qk:sk][qp:sq][ri][sj][sl]C[chincharra [15k?]: great game
AnnaLena [16k]: thanks
]B[tt]BL[18.684]TW[cl][fp:hp][gc:hc][gd:ge][gn:io][gq:hq][ha:sb][hr:ir][hs:js][ii:ki][jj:kj][kr][mc:pc][ml][od:pd][oe:sf][og:pg][rc:sd]
)
(
;W[er]
)
)
(
;C[*** More solid.]W[kr]
)
)
(
;B[kr]
(
;W[ir]
;C[*** Cutting off the White stone. But see variation for the previous move.]B[kq]
)
(
;W[kq]
;B[ir]
;W[js]
;B[ks]
;W[jo]
;B[kp]
;W[lo]
;B[is]
;W[jr]
;B[js]
;W[lp]
;B[jr]
;C[*** The Black dumpling is cut off with only 3 liberties to 5.]W[lr]
;B[gr]
;W[fr]
;C[*** Black has gained 2 liberties, but White has the move.]B[hr]
;W[gq]
;B[mr]
;W[ls]
;B[ms]
;W[hq]
;B[mq]
;W[gs]
)
)
)
(
;W[er]
)
(
;W[mr]
)
)
(
;W[gi]
)
)
(
;W[er]
)
(
;W[mr]
)
(
;C[*** This is better locally. ]W[gi]
)
)
(
;W[fb]
;B[fd]
;C[*** White is OK here.]W[gd]
)
)
(
;C[*** Big. Threatens to jump into the corner, maybe killing it.]W[er]
)
(
;C[*** Big. Thretens to jump or slide into the corner. Takes away this point for Black.]W[mr]
)
(
;C[*** Big. Threatens to slide into the corner and protects the side.]W[eb]
)
(
;C[*** Threatens to make a nice center territory and to reduce Black's territory on the side.]W[fh]
)
)
(
;C[*** Enlarges the White framework. Takes away a good play for Black.]W[mg]
;B[li]
;W[jj]
)
)
(
;C[*** The keima starts to make eye shape and takes away a good play for Black. ]W[oj]
)
)
(
;C[*** Now Black has an eyeless group to attack.]W[sm]
)
)
(
;C[*** Attack!]W[oj]
)
)
(
;C[*** Double kakari.]W[nc]
)
(
;C[*** Attacks the weak Black group. Takes away a good play for Black.]W[oj]
))
(
;W[dn]
;B[co]
;C[*** One way.]W[fm]
)
)
(
;C[*** Leaves room for a slide into the corner or a one space extension on the side.]W[cn]
)
)
(
;C[*** Threatens to undercut the Black corner.]W[cm]
(
;C[*** Protects the corner, but inefficient.]B[co]
)
(
;B[dn]
;W[bo]
)
)
)
(
;W[nc]
;B[qf]
;C[*** A common opening for White in a 4 stone game.]W[jd]
)
)