Oof, that resonated with me on a spiritual level.

(Assuming you're playing white) I commend you for passing and not connecting at 7 yourself. As Yuan Zhou said about Go Seigen (paraphrased): "Go Seigen didn't just care about winning, he cared about finding out the truth."

Regardless of whether that actually was Go Seigen's mindset, it is one that I respect

My chess trainer once told me that if I can consistently read three moves ahead (thus not falling for a two-move-tactic) I would be master level.

So, I'm enjoying blitz even more nowadays (1/5*20).

I mentioned it elsewhere that I think more time does not benefit the majority of players when they are not strong enough to make use of it. In my case more time leads to reading a lot of bad candidate moves and often times I convice myself that one of them is actually good (sunken cost fallacy?).

That's 5 ply (5 go moves), right?

Humans are better at depth first search than breadth first search. But if you have read to depth 5 in, say, 5 different region of the board you can often stitch those moves together into a deeper whole board search without too much loss of accuracy. OC, that means reading locally to depth 5 by either player at each node, which is no mean feat.

Analysis paralysis is a real trap I have seen with beginners. But you're a 1 dan. Surely you have a decent intuition of good candidates. Whether they apply in the situation at hand, which is the best one, or if none of them satisfies you (hence tenuki), requires reading.

Play fast, review slow was some advice I got a long time ago (maybe here?) and the longer I play the game and the stronger I get the more it makes sense to me.

I do ponder turning points in my blitz games afterwards. There are of course skewed by my identifying them as turning points. I don't really use bots anymore to anaylse because their suggestions are - for me - too much "out there".