Bill Spight wrote: I recall a game where I felt disrespected and got angry. I was a new, and weak, 3 dan and took 2 stones from a 5 dan.
He took territory in one of the two open corners, and I made a wall. In the other open corner he made a weak group running out into the center. At that level, we would consider that group to be alive, but attackable. And I did press an attack. Then at some point, to my surprise, he did not respond in the center, but made an invasion that looked to me to be an overplay. He managed to live inside while I made another wall. Then I renewed the attack. Then he made another surprise invasion. Again, I was unable to kill it, and ended up with another wall. Maybe it happened again, at this point in time I do not recall. But finally his weak group ran into my original wall in the diagonally opposite corner, and his large group died. So I had big win instead of a big loss.
I was still upset. How dare he think that he could just invade at will! But, truth to say, he had lived very easily.Maybe his invasions were not the overplays I had thought that they were.
Thanks for sharing this experience of yours.
You're absolutely right, winning a won game is not that easy, there is always the possibility to make table-turning mistakes until the very end. A coup de grace you are launching at your opponent even might be one of them as well as not doing it when you get the chance.Bill Spight wrote: Kicking a man when he is down is poor form. OTOH, winning a won game is not so easy. A coup de grace may be the best course. I remember a game where my opponent just kept playing on, while I kept thinking, "Why doesn't he resign?" Finally, I made a slip and he turned the tables. How embarrassing!![]()
Yes, I know that, but I'm not used to being ignored all the time - not since I've played as 15-20kyu, and that's been a while I played at this level. It's like you want to talk to your husband/wife about something important and all he/she says is "banana". This is irritating.Bill Spight wrote:Well, White is supposed to tenuki.Ember wrote:In the last round, however, I got another 1dan player. I played actively, like before, but I was massacred all over the place. Whenever I attacked, he just ignored that move
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White is supposed to kill Black groups. Often that is the only way to win when you give four or more stones.
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White is supposed to reduce or invade.
To me, it just felt like another kick in the guts. First of all, I didn't ask his opinion because second it was such an obvious flaw in this game that there was simply no need to say that. That's why for me (!) it sounded pretty arrogant and not like a pointer (please keep in mind, that I was in a very bad state, emotionally, and it still upsets me at this very moment to write about this situation). Also, this sloppy way he adressed this matter was another point, let alone, that it was simply not a helpful comment at all. If he had pointed at something constructive that hadn't been so obvious as for example how I should have played in one of these corner situations, then this would have been a different story. That would have been more teaching game-like. But who am I to judge? I cannot look at all of this objectively because of this emotional state of mine. For me, it was still a good lesson not on how not to play as black, but on how not to play as white. But that's about it (although for me, this is also a good thing to decide on).Bill Spight wrote: It is not clear to me that White did not treat the game as a teaching game. He did give you pointers afterwards.
I didn't want to say anything against loosing - as soon as you put a stone on that board (and you're playing with a komi of 0,5 and the like) someone is bound to win and someone is bound to lose. What I wanted to say with that story is that the way in which you reach your goal is important, too.Bill Spight wrote:Now, I do not know whether your opponent disrespected you or not, and it is not for me to judge. And I do not approve of what bridge great Terence Reese called slap-dash tactics against weaker players. And certainly you cannot be blamed for your feelings. You took quite a beating. Your story is a reminder to those of us who give handicaps that winning isn't everything, that we should be considerate towards our opponents and exhibit good sportsmanship.
@ Polama:
I absolutely agree on that.Polama wrote:[...] Sometimes he seals you in or kills you and you lose, but that's go.
I do not have a record of that game because the thinking times were pretty short and I didn't record anything that day, but I clearly remember the situation after he had killed the first corner. He was threatening to control 1/4 of the board with one more move, so I didn't play on with that dead group within but invaded a three space extension he had near a corner of mine (we had exchanged a few moves here but I cannot for sure reconstruct the whole situation) to forestall this. He went on to kill said corner. Of course, I must have made a few mistakes and that invasion might have been the first mistake therePolama wrote:So if your opponent was ignoring your attacks and responding by killing your groups, it sounds like you were (probably inadvertently) 'stealing' sente. You owed a move, but were taking initiative elsewhere.
Big kills as a sign of respect? Actually, this sounds a bit strange to me. I mean, of course you take advantage of your oponent's mistake in a handicap game (always given, as you said, that it is a fair handicap against a weaker player), what would the possibility be like to lose your 20 points lead if you "just" (yes, this is hard enough) kept your focus? It is not very likely for that player to find such a good move to suddenly totally and unavoidably revert the score else (s)he would be stronger and would need less handicap, no? Going for the quick and big (depending on the game) kill - maybe with moves that wouldn't work if your oponent answers them proberly - sounds more like "quick and dirty" to me if you allow me to speak freely like that. But maybe I'm missing something here and you can clarify your point so that I can understand you better.Polama wrote:I actually view big kills in a handicap game as a sign of respect. I'm assuming the handicap is fair, and if I let you get away with things, I'm going to lose. That this mistake might be the last bad one you make. That even if I'm up by 20 points, you're capable of finding a clever move down the line reversing the game.
