I think that your problems go way farther back than the monkey jump.
1) The the whole attack from 41 through 53 seems premature.
In particular, look at move 41. You don't need O7 yet. What if he takes it first? You play N8, and in conjuction with your wall, you are making 7th rank territory.
When attacking, you should surround him completely first, then second, you go for the eyes. You went for the eyes first, he defended, and as a result he became stronger. He built the wall from O5 to R5 while defending. This wall caused problems for you later when he used it to attack southward.
$$B Before your attack
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$$ . . . . . . O O . .
$$ . . . . X . . X . .
$$ . . . . . . X . . .
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[go]$$B Before your attack
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$$ . . . . . . O O . .
$$ . . . . X . . X . .
$$ . . . . . . X . . .
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$$B After your attack
$$ . . . . O . . . . .
$$ . . . . O O O O . .
$$ . . . X X . . X . .
$$ . . . . . a X b . .
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[go]$$B After your attack
$$ . . . . O . . . . .
$$ . . . . O O O O . .
$$ . . . X X . . X . .
$$ . . . . . a X b . .
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2) The J3 stone seemed confused from the moment it hit the board. Are you trying to attack the lower left corner? You can't: it is too solid. Are you trying to extend from your lower right? It is too far: he can invade immediately at L3.
3) The whole sequence of 63/65/67 is attacking a corner that is too strong, and not surprisingly, you end up with bad shape as he pushes you back. He ends up with a loose but effective group that surrounds your southern group.
Your last chance there was to play 79 at M6 and maybe fight your way out.
So, as you stumble into yose, your southern group has bad shape at its east end and weaknesses facing a strong enemy wall at its west end. So his attack succeeds.
In summary, the attack did not materialize out of nowhere. You did several things that allowed it to happen. And the common characteristic of those is that you attacked where you could not succeed.
So rather than worrying about how to best beat a monkey jump, concentrate on proper attacking style.
* Surround first, go for eyes next
* Remember that any time you attack something, it becomes stronger. Before attacking, ask yourself if you can cope with that additional enemy strength.
One last point: you may have been able to fight back with 199 at N2. I'm too lazy to read it out. But note the shape issue: when you see the empty triangle, N2 should appear on your short list of moves to be considered.
When you see this bad shape:
$$B
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$$ . . . . O X . .
$$ . . . O O X . .
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[go]$$B
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$$ . . X X X . . .
$$ . . . . O X . .
$$ . . . O O X . .
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...you should have an automatic reflex to play this:
$$B
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$$ . . X X X . . .
$$ . . . . O X . .
$$ . . 1 O O X . .
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[go]$$B
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$$ . . X X X . . .
$$ . . . . O X . .
$$ . . 1 O O X . .
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