A few comments.

You made a lot of small plays, defensive plays, and single purpose plays.
(;AP[GOWrite:2.2.21]ST[2]GM[1]SZ[19]FF[4]CA[UTF-8]OT[6x60 byo-yomi]RE[B+37.50]PM[0]RU[Japanese]GN[ ]HA[6]AB[pj][dd][dp][pp][dj][pd]WR[16k]KM[0.5]PB[Aidoneus]BR[22k]PW[arthurx]PC[The KGS Go Server at http://www.gokgs.com/]TM[1800.0]FG[259:]DT[2014-05-10]
;W[nc]WL[1795.443]
;B[qf]C[arthurx [16k]: enjoythe game! :)
Aidoneus [22k]: lot of stone!
arthurx [16k]: tooo much, i dunnoo if i have a a chance :P
Aidoneus [22k]: i don't mind losing
]BL[1795.06]
;W[pb]C[Aidoneus [22k]: at least if i learn from game
arthurx [16k]: yeah, true
]WL[1758.775]
;B[lc]C[arthurx [16k]: it's hard to win against this many handicap thoough
]BL[1774.064]
;W[ne]C[Aidoneus [22k]: my 1st game gave 5
]WL[1723.109]
;B[lf]BL[1759.832]
;W[jq]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i am not 15k!!
arthurx [16k]: lol
]WL[1705.996]
(
;B[lp]C[*** See variation.]BL[1733.017]
;W[fq]WL[1698.779]
;B[cn]BL[1724.969]
;W[fc]WL[1680.131]
;B[hc]BL[1719.296]
;W[cc]WL[1674.226]
(
;B[dc]C[*** See variation.]BL[1714.495]
;W[cd]WL[1669.698]
(
;B[ce]C[Aidoneus [22k]: joseki clueless
Aidoneus [22k]: me that is
arthurx [16k]: you'll learn them
arthurx [16k]: i don't know many
*** Not the best -- see variation --, but . . .
]BL[1712.095]
;W[be]C[*** White returns the favor.]WL[1603.028]
;B[cf]C[*** This is good for Black.]BL[1708.683]
;W[bf]WL[1598.069]
(
;B[bg]C[*** But this is not good, as it leaves behind cutting points. See variation.]BL[1705.175]
;W[db]WL[1578.143]
(
;B[fd]C[*** What are you afraid of? See variation.]BL[1695.221]
;W[bd]C[*** Unnecessary.]WL[1550.978]
;B[eb]C[*** Good.]BL[1681.728]
;W[bb]WL[1516.599]
(
;B[ec]C[*** What are you afraid of? See variation.]BL[1672.475]
;W[ea]WL[1500.546]
(
;B[fb]C[*** What are you afraid of? See variation.]BL[1632.071]
;W[qn]WL[1476.972]
;B[pm]BL[1622.364]
;W[qq]WL[1450.587]
(
;B[qo]C[*** See variation.]BL[1609.526]
;W[pq]WL[1433.498]
;B[op]C[arthurx [16k]: what made you decide to challenge me?
Aidoneus [22k]: me?
Aidoneus [22k]: just want slow game
arthurx [16k]: oh ok, i like slow ones too
Aidoneus [22k]: remember me, right?
arthurx [16k]: oh did we talk earlier todya?
Aidoneus [22k]: yes, lol
arthurx [16k]: hahahh yeah now i do1 :)
]BL[1598.959]
;W[jn]C[Aidoneus [22k]: saw my 1st win!
]WL[1329.627]
;B[jp]C[arthurx [16k]: oh, i see what you mean now
Aidoneus [22k]: first game yesterday
]BL[1585.341]
;W[ip]C[Aidoneus [22k]: been reading books for month, though
arthurx [16k]: ahah, that explains why u seem to know what you are dong
]WL[1293.484]
(
;B[io]C[arthurx [16k]: i just started reading
Aidoneus [22k]: just guessing
*** Gives White a lot of play. See variation.]BL[1561.147]
;W[jo]WL[1267.15]
;B[kp]BL[1557.431]
;W[ho]WL[1258.225]
(
;B[iq]C[*** See variation.]BL[1549.98]
;W[in]WL[1239.084]
(
;B[kq]C[arthurx [16k]: yeah, i can telll you wil be good
*** What are you afraid of? See variation.
]BL[1540.12]
;W[hq]WL[1207.351]
(
;B[ir]C[*** Small. What cares about one or two stones? See variation.]BL[1523.09]
;W[en]WL[1182.356]
;B[dl]C[*** Relatively small. A single purpose play with no threat.]BL[1511.98]
;W[ag]WL[1174.16]
;B[ch]BL[1494.595]
;W[bh]C[Aidoneus [22k]: too old to ever be good, lol
arthurx [16k]: lol
]WL[1150.665]
;B[cg]C[arthurx [16k]: i'm 49, how about you?
Aidoneus [22k]: 60
arthurx [16k]: cool
arthurx [16k]: maybe you are fast learner. go is one of those things i like, but can't seem to learn very quickly
]BL[1473.859]
;W[bi]WL[1086.593]
;B[bj]C[Aidoneus [22k]: can't seem to stop invasions
arthurx [16k]: well, that takes lots of practice
*** Small.]BL[1464.044]
;W[ci]WL[1028.522]
;B[di]BL[1459.602]
;W[cj]WL[1000.651]
;B[bk]BL[1456.624]
;W[fa]WL[981.077]
;B[ga]BL[1446.501]
;W[da]WL[973.632]
;B[ck]BL[1418.034]
;W[gb]WL[934.612]
;B[gc]C[arthurx [16k]: invasions are part of the game
]BL[1399.078]
;W[ha]C[Aidoneus [22k]: sure
]WL[907.704]
;B[hb]C[*** Small.]BL[1390.098]
;W[oq]WL[867.1]
;B[ai]C[arthurx [16k]: oh, dang, u got me
*** Small.]BL[1381.803]
;W[af]WL[835.035]
;B[ah]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i miss lots
]BL[1378.619]
;W[fl]C[arthurx [16k]: that was good
]WL[813.817]
;B[nq]BL[1333.164]
;W[nr]WL[791.21]
;B[mq]BL[1322.01]
;W[mr]WL[781.875]
;B[lr]BL[1319.033]
;W[rp]WL[771.628]
(
;B[pn]C[*** What are you afraid of? See variations. End of comments.]BL[1310.647]
;W[ro]WL[750.613]
;B[rn]BL[1278.765]
;W[ln]WL[644.944]
;B[qp]BL[1249.321]
;W[rq]WL[632.722]
;B[qm]BL[1244.222]
;W[qc]WL[585.823]
;B[qd]BL[1207.408]
;W[ib]WL[521.95]
;B[jb]C[arthurx [16k]: omiogosh i am playiing terrible today
]BL[1183.519]
;W[ga]WL[507.863]
;B[ic]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i couldn't tell
Aidoneus [22k]: no use me looking at pro games!
arthurx [16k]: hello mina! :)
]BL[1170.669]
;W[nm]C[arthurx [16k]: hello blackh
]WL[431.138]
;B[ia]BL[1158.426]
;W[rd]WL[404.197]
;B[re]BL[1147.96]
;W[rc]WL[374.43]
;B[ms]BL[1104.837]
;W[os]WL[349.449]
;B[ls]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i live in gote
arthurx [16k]: lol
]BL[1097.025]
;W[nj]WL[298.366]
;B[ng]BL[1081.787]
;W[se]WL[261.053]
;B[sf]BL[1075.627]
;W[sd]WL[253.772]
;B[gk]BL[993.74]
;W[jj]WL[219.701]
;B[fm]BL[972.954]
;W[hl]WL[184.968]
;B[gl]C[Aidoneus [22k]: good thing stones marked, when i space out
arthurx [16k]: what do u mean?
]BL[959.158]
;W[gn]C[Aidoneus [22k]: not notice you move till notice circle
arthurx [16k]: oh, there is a way to get sound, but it's kind of complicated
]WL[119.236]
;B[fk]C[Aidoneus [22k]: would be nice!
arthurx [16k]: remind me later, i can show you where the instructions are
Aidoneus [22k]: GREAT!
]BL[916.914]
;W[hk]WL[66.921]
;B[fn]BL[884.901]
;W[fo]WL[45.855]
;B[eo]BL[857.886]
;W[gm]WL[36.517]
;B[em]BL[841.127]
;W[pc]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[oe]BL[798.662]
;W[ep]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[dn]BL[779.812]
;W[dq]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[nd]BL[743.314]
;W[oc]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[me]BL[732.615]
;W[md]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[nf]BL[725.714]
;W[mc]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[od]BL[715.101]
;W[ld]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[kc]BL[701.023]
;W[cp]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[do]BL[688.41]
;W[bq]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[bo]BL[657.131]
;W[bp]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[nk]BL[604.874]
;W[ok]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[mk]BL[580.737]
;W[mj]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[lj]BL[570.438]
;W[ol]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[oj]BL[562.129]
;W[mh]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[nh]BL[439.238]
;W[mi]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[lh]BL[417.808]
;W[lk]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[kk]C[Aidoneus [22k]: misread this seq
]BL[272.768]
;W[ll]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[li]C[arthurx [16k]: well, it's a complicated one
]BL[206.11]
;W[ml]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[jk]BL[166.77]
;W[ke]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ij]BL[126.788]
;W[jf]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ji]BL[94.149]
;W[hj]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hi]BL[76.205]
;W[ig]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ik]OB[6]BL[60.0]
;W[jl]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[il]OB[6]BL[60.0]
;W[kl]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hm]C[arthurx [16k]: nice
Aidoneus [22k]: found ladder!
arthurx [16k]: lol
arthurx [16k]: yeah
]OB[6]BL[60.0]
;W[im]C[Aidoneus [22k]: think i'm still losing, though
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[gj]C[arthurx [16k]: really? i think you're winning! ahhah
]OB[6]BL[60.0]
;W[hn]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i can't count (read)!
arthurx [16k]: me neither
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hl]OB[6]BL[60.0]
;W[ih]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[jh]C[Aidoneus [22k]: what does 12 mean?
arthurx [16k]: where?
Aidoneus [22k]: under mu name
]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[gg]C[arthurx [16k]: that's the move just made
arthurx [16k]: oh
arthurx [16k]: wait
arthurx [16k]: that means you captured 12 of my pieces
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[fg]C[Aidoneus [22k]: oh, thanks
Aidoneus [22k]: i see how zig-zag eats territory!
]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[gh]C[arthurx [16k]: yeah, was all i could think of
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[fh]C[Aidoneus [22k]: works!
]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[gf]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ff]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[lo]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[pk]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[no]C[Aidoneus [22k]: you have all 4 corners!
arthurx [16k]: yeah, but that is not enough, i think
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[np]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[mo]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[oo]C[Aidoneus [22k]: you'll bully me out of more! LOL
]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[on]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[om]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[nn]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[pl]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[nl]C[arthurx [16k]: no i don't think so
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ge]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[he]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hd]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[ie]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[jd]OB[5]BL[60.0]
;W[je]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[mb]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[nb]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ma]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[na]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[lb]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[pa]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i make too many gote moves
arthurx [16k]: don't we all :)
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[mg]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[kg]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[lg]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[sn]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[sm]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[so]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hr]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[gr]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[le]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[kd]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ns]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[or]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ri]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[fr]C[arthurx [16k]: getting near the end, i think
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hh]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[hg]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[gi]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[co]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[ao]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[cq]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[bm]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[ap]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[kh]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[jg]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i usually resing before i get tyhis far
arthurx [16k]: you are doing well
arthurx [16k]: i think you are winning
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[hs]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[gs]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[jr]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[id]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[jc]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[ni]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i don't understand go clock times
]WL[60.0]OW[6]
;B[oi]C[arthurx [16k]: you have 4 time periods of one minute each.... if u move in less than a minute, you keep all4... if you move in more than a minute you lose 1 and have 3
Aidoneus [22k]: ahh
]OB[4]BL[60.0]
;W[tt]C[Aidoneus [22k]: wonder why not going down
Aidoneus [22k]: lost your move
arthurx [16k]: i passed
Aidoneus [22k]: did you pass?
arthurx [16k]: yeah
minajinn [18k]: need l5 first
Aidoneus [22k]: now what?
arthurx [16k]: ok, it's yor turn, we gottta close off l5 and l6
Aidoneus [22k]: i think 6 stones not fair
arthurx [16k]: so you go l5, then i go l6
Aidoneus [22k]: 4 stones, maybe?
Aidoneus [22k]: you mean j?
arthurx [16k]: no, lo5
frog [8k]: black play l5
arthurx [16k]: L5
arthurx [16k]: its a hole
minajinn [18k]: L5 please
]WL[60.0]OW[5]
(
;B[ko]C[frog [8k]: or pass and let white play
arthurx [16k]: you gotta click there then i can finish it
]OB[3]BL[60.0]
;W[kn]C[Aidoneus [22k]: i saw it before, didn't think it mattered
]WL[60.0]OW[5]
;B[tt]C[minajinn [18k]: holes matter
arthurx [16k]: now we both passs agaain and seee
]OB[3]BL[60.0]
;W[tt]C[arthurx [16k]: loooks goood to me
Aidoneus [22k]: now what?
arthurx [16k]: now click "done" up toop if u happpy with the score
Aidoneus [22k]: did i win?!
arthurx [16k]: yes you won
minajinn [18k]: great game guys
arthurx [16k]: congrats!
arthurx [16k]: great game
Aidoneus [22k]: thank you! please tell me how turn on move beep
arthurx [16k]: don't worry about the handicap, our ranks and handi's will settle in eventuallly
Aidoneus [22k]: want to play again sunday (?) with less handicap?
arthurx [16k]: ok, let me see if i can find the web page, it's knda complicated
arthurx [16k]: hold on
arthurx [16k]: no, whatever handicap the system picks is good for me, you might be higher rank by then
arthurx [16k]: brb
minajinn [18k]: ok
Aidoneus [22k]: ok
Aidoneus [22k]: hello everyone!
minajinn [18k]: hi
Aidoneus [22k]: well, hello minajinn
Aidoneus [22k]: someone else was here, right?
minajinn [18k]: yeah but they all left
]WL[60.0]OW[5]TB[aj:ak][al:cl][am][an:bn][bh][bi:ci][cj][cm:dm][de:fe][df:eh][dk:ek][ed][ei:fj][el:fl][en][fc][gd][hj:hk][ib][is:ks][ja:la][jj:kj][jq][kb][ki][kr][lq][mf][ne][of:pf][og:sh][pe:qe][pi:qi][po][qj:sl][qn][rf][rm][si]TW[aa:ca][ab][ac:bc][ad:ae][aq][ar:er][as:fs][cb][eq][fp:hp][go][gq][hf:if][io][jm:mm][mk:nk][mn][oa:ob][pr:ss][qa:sb][sc][sp:sq]
)
(
;B[tt]C[Aidoneus [22k]: what happened, lol
arthurx [16k]: do you know how to mark dead stones?
arthurx [16k]: we both passed
minajinn [18k]: need l5
Aidoneus [22k]: no
arthurx [16k]: and i started marking dead stones, but thought u should let you for practice
arthurx [16k]: for instance, yeah, you got ot
Aidoneus [22k]: like i clicked on k10?
arthurx [16k]: yeah
arthurx [16k]: except
arthurx [16k]: we're not done
Aidoneus [22k]: no?
arthurx [16k]: someone has to move l5
minajinn [18k]: L5 arthur
arthurx [16k]: so click undo
Aidoneus [22k]: noty see i
arthurx [16k]: undo is up top just above resign
]OB[3]TB[aj:ak][al:cl][am][an:bn][bh][bi:ci][cj][cm:dm][de:fe][df:eh][dk:ek][ed][ei:fj][el:fl][en][fc][gd][hj:hk][ib][is:ks][ja:la][jj:kj][jq][kb][ki][kr][lq][mf][ne][of:pf][og:sh][pe:qe][pi:qi][po][qj:sl][qn][rf][rm][si]TW[aa:ca][ab][ac:bc][ad:ae][aq][ar:er][as:fs][cb][eq][fp:hp][go][gq][hf:if][io][mk:nk][oa:ob][pr:ss][qa:sb][sc][sp:sq]BL[60.0]
)
)
(
;B[ro]C[*** The right play locally, but see other variation.]
)
(
;B[qc]C[*** Attack!]
)
)
(
;B[ro]C[*** White's corner is not alive. Divide and conquer!]
;W[nr]
;B[qc]C[*** Attack!]
)
)
(
;B[hq]
)
)
(
;B[in]C[*** The ladder does not work, does it? Divide and conquer!]
)
)
(
;B[jo]
;W[io]
;B[in]C[*** Divide and conquer!]
)
)
(
;B[qp]
;W[pq]
;B[op]
)
)
(
;B[fa]
;W[da]
;B[qc]C[*** One stone is small. This is big.]
)
)
(
;B[da]
(
;W[cb]
;B[ec]C[*** Much better, eh?]
)
(
;W[ca]
;B[cb]C[*** Ko.]
)
)
)
(
;B[eb]
;W[cb]
;B[ec]
)
)
(
;B[cg]
)
)
(
;B[de]C[*** Correct.]
)
)
(
;B[cd]
;W[dc]
;B[ed]
;W[fb]
;B[ge]C[*** Black is good all around, while White is confined to the corner.]
)
)
(
;B[qc]C[*** A dual purpose play. It makes a base for the Black group and attacks the White group.]
)
)
Main focus: What are you afraid of?
