This is a good lesson for me.
I played a 6 kyu OGS, which is about 2-3 stones stronger than me.
Luckily the other player wanted to review after the game and we did some variations and some reviewing. But maybe others also have their light to shine on my mistakes and allow me to learn from them

Mistake was probably made at move 17? R13 would make more sense.
I was thinking treating R6 lightly and not answering the kick would also have been better, can someone confirm this?
Thing to learn from this game, so far:
Go in general1) if you're running with 2 weak groups, something went horribly wrong (what a useless lesson

)
2) be weary of jealous moves. R6 was probably folly.
Personal problemDon't play faster when things get tougher. It's not like a fight in realtime. For some reason I play superfast when I'm in a tough situation, like my opponent can strike at any moment. While I could take a minute to think about it and read it out!
The moves between roughly 60 and 70 are perfect example.
On the other hand, I played way slower trying to make my group live in the end. Irony there is that I had the living variation in my head, but upon doing a check, I misread it and then did it wrong. My double check double-crossed me
(;FF[4]
CA[UTF-8]
GM[1]
DT[2018-12-02]
PC[OGS: https://online-go.com/game/review/357959]
PB[Spoonsy]
PW[Merian]
BR[9k]
WR[6k]
CP[online-go.com]
TM[600]OT[5x30 byo-yomi]
RE[W+R]
SZ[19]
KM[6.5]
RU[japanese]
;B[pd]
;W[pp]
;B[dc]
;W[cp]
;B[ep]
;W[eq]
;B[fq]
;W[dq]
;B[fp]
;W[cn]
;B[jq]
;W[mq]
;B[ce]
;W[cj]
;B[jd]
;W[qj]
(;B[qn]C[
-- chat --
Merian: question is: why invade here?
Spoonsy: that's probably an even better question
Spoonsy: this was maybe a jealous move
]
;W[qo]
;B[pn]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: was it an option:
]
;W[ro]
(;B[qg]C[
-- chat --
Merian: this is where it started
Spoonsy: not a good move this?
Merian: K3 fairly ok
Spoonsy: one point jump instead?
Merian: K5 would strengthen
]
;W[ql]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: I decided to give up those 2 stones to bring out the other 2... figured I couldn't spend the move
Merian: but now you have the same issue
Merian: but eworse
]
;B[rm]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: interesting. can this 3-3 live?
]
;W[nk]
;B[nn]
;W[kp]
;B[jp]
;W[ko]
;B[ln]
;W[jo]
;B[lk]
;W[mm]
;B[mn]
;W[lm]
;B[kn]
;W[io]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: yeah
]
(;B[jm]
;W[hq]C[
-- chat --
Merian: yup
Merian: this was a painful move
]
;B[fm]
;W[hm]
;B[dp]
;W[cq]
;B[dm]
;W[cm]
;B[dl]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: but the biggest mistake was probably earlier in the game. Fact that I got 2 weak groups to run out is a sign it went wrong somewhere
]
;W[kl]
;B[jl]
;W[kk]
;B[li]
;W[ni]
;B[hl]
;W[kj]
;B[mk]
;W[nl]
;B[mi]
;W[gl]
;B[gm]
;W[il]
(;B[im]
;W[hn]
;B[ik]
;W[fk]
;B[ek]
;W[ej]
(;B[fj]
;W[gj]
;B[gk]
;W[hk]
;B[fl]
;W[il]
;B[gk]
;W[hl]
;B[fk]
;W[ij]
;B[op]
;W[oq]
;B[np]
;W[nq]
;B[nm]
;W[ml]
;B[ol]
;W[ok]
;B[pl]
;W[pk]
;B[qm]
;W[om]
;B[pm]
;W[mp]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: so I double checked and made the mistake

]
;B[po]
;W[qp]
(;B[on]
;W[no]
;B[sj]
;W[rl]
;B[sl]
;W[ri]
;B[si]
;W[rh]
;B[mo]
;W[oo]
;B[lp]
;W[kq]
;B[lq]
;W[lo]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: okay I'm here
]
)(;B[mo]C[
-- chat --
Merian: how about this?
Merian: this is where the group really died
]
;W[no]
;B[oo]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: yes it works
Spoonsy: it's so stupid because I had that variation in my head at one point, but then read it wrong again and thought it didn't work
]
))(;B[gk]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: better direction
Merian: I'll just show some options
Merian: not just direction
Merian: it captures a stone
Merian: and connects two groups
Spoonsy: and connect both groups
Spoonsy: yes
Spoonsy: much better
Merian: solving all your issues
]
))(;B[hn]
;W[hk]
;B[in]
;W[jn]
;B[km]
;W[im]
;B[ik]
;W[hl]
;B[hj]
;W[ij]
;B[jk]
;W[gj]
;B[hi]
;W[jj]
;B[gk]
;W[fk]
;B[fl]
;W[gk]
;B[ek]
))(;B[hp]
;W[jm]
))(;B[jo]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: yes
Merian: so that group has options
Spoonsy: I was thinking of K5 or O6
Merian: you'd need to run with R6 then
Spoonsy: but either of those I thought white would split me next
]
)(;B[ql]
;W[qg]
;B[lo]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: to treat R6 lighter? and not answer the kick
]
))(;B[qg]
;W[qm]
;B[qq]C[
-- chat --
Spoonsy: extension from my own stone is probably better
]
;W[qp]
;B[pq]
;W[oq]
;B[or]
;W[nr]
;B[op]
;W[nq]
;B[ps]
;W[rq]
;B[rr]
;W[sr]
;B[qr]
;W[rp]
;B[rs]C[
-- chat --
Merian: yup
Spoonsy: okay. small live but alive
Merian: just a variation
Merian: and if you strengthen the side
Merian: you just need to destroy the corner
Spoonsy: P4 also good aji
Spoonsy: cool. very helpful doing this review, thank you for it

Merian: until next time
Spoonsy: thanks, see you!
]
))
(I'm black, spoonsy)