Hi Thimblefox,
Game 1:

No, this is not where you lost the game. No problem.

Your note about A is correct -- the right side gap is 1 space wider -- simple fundamental to remember. But, the K16

stone is on the 4th line, versus the R9

stone on 3rd -- so it's tricky.
Anyway, this is not where you lost the game, so no problem either way.

correct basic shape.

You don't take care of your (now) heavy o16 group. You create
another weak group. This is a problem. You'll be very busy.

,

Your

is a possibility, but your

pull-back is too heavy, and you hurt your o16 group
even more. Not good.
Instead of

pull-back, you had to read other options, such as L16 cross-cut and start a local fight.
This is a problem with your reading, as you mentioned, and your fight skills.
This is where you start to get into trouble.

Again, you create a weak group Q5 and abandon it. Not good.

...

If this is your "strategy", you might as well resign.
There's a Chinese saying to describe this way of play: to die a peaceful death.
You can clearly see, even before

through

,
that Black controls a much bigger part of the board than you.
You must jump in and fight -- you may get completely wiped out, yes,
but it's much better to lose by fighting hard than just give up completely.

Yes, e2 hane is the only move.
This is the kind of mistakes that's important. This is a 20-point+ mistake. Just one move.
This is important. ( Not

. )

Bad habit. Just connect. Important basic to learn.

If you had simply connected on

, then this

would be gote. Now, it's sente. This is one reason

is bad.

Bad. Broken shape. Bad shape. The combination of

and

is bad.
Important basic to learn.